"He who has a ‘why’ to live for can bear almost any ‘how’.” Viktor Frankl, Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor.
When you started your career as a financial adviser, you probably set yourself some goals like the sort of clients you wanted to work with and the standard of service you wanted to provide to them. This was important to help give you direction. As you gained experience, maybe you refined those goals and set new ones. This is important too, to help maintain the momentum.
For some of you though, at some stage, achieving those sorts of goals may have stopped giving you the same sense of fulfilment it once did. Setting new goals may have become more of a chore than a motivator. Maybe you’ve even started to question what’s the point of it all anyway.
What we’ve found is that to be resilient to these sorts of doubts and challenges, and to thrive as a result, we need to move to a higher stage of psychological development. We need to search for meaning, purpose and, ultimately, our calling. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, our most basic needs are food, water, sleep, protection, and safety. Once those are met, the next thing we need is a sense of purpose and meaning in our lives.
Internationally renowned psychiatrist Viktor E. Frankl endured years of unspeakable horror in Nazi concentration camps during WWII. This first-hand experience with one of the darkest chapters of human history taught him that man’s primary motivational force is the search for meaning. In ‘Man's Search for Meaning’, he says, “A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He knows the 'why' for his existence and will be able to bear almost any 'how.'”
While in the concentration camps, Frankl realised he could survive, despite tremendous grief, by finding meaning in his work as a psychologist and in the memories of his wife. He also observed that the prisoners who were most resilient were the ones who also felt a purpose for their lives.
So is there a strategy that you can use to help you with your own search?
Instead of starting with a big existential question like, “What’s my purpose in life?” and being overwhelmed by where to begin, ask yourself the following questions and break your search down into bite-sized chunks that you’re more able to manage.
Now I’m not suggesting you obsessively search for ‘the’ answer then abandon your job, family and community to join a not-for-profit on the other side of the world. I am suggesting though that devoting some time to finding out more about what creates meaning in your life will likely unleash not just a sense of well-being but also help build resilience in the face of your life's greatest challenges.
For advisers wanting more strategies, insights and information from Kamal Sarma on building resilience, go to the BT Academy website and read his recent whitepaper, ‘Five to thrive’, brought to you by BT.
* About Kamal Sarma. Living in a monastery, Kamal Sarma trained as a monk for 6 years before gaining postgraduate qualifications and excelling in senior corporate positions in organisations such as McKinsey & Company. He is the founder and CEO of Rezilium, a strategic leadership firm that delivers customised resilience programs to a range of organisations including Google, Facebook and PWC. He is currently Chairman of the R U OK think tank, which takes research and turns it into practical tools. Kamal is also the co-founder of a not-for-profit venture, Captivate the Future, which aims to build confidence, resilience and self-esteem in high school students through public speaking, and is the author of 3 books.
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